Dr. BInx - Resident Psychiatrist - with Follow Up

Dear Doc Binx
May phone in Questions kayo from my friend:

[Sophie ]
Doc, mas gugustuhin mo bang malaman kung may gusto/galit sa iyo ang isang tao?
[Doc Binx]
Sa first question mo…
mas gusto ko malaman yung feelings sakin ng tao.. Mapa negative man yan o positive… Mahirap kasi yung nanghuhula.. Either 1 time big time na masaktan ka or forever ka nagsasuffer silently wondering how that person feels about you..

Syempre!!! Mahirap manghula at mag-assume… lalo na ang maging lost =P hehehe.

truly! And yun nga you can never assume.. mahirap kasi mag assume because diff people may diff ways sila on showing their affections. Meron akala mo nipopormahan ka but yun pala ganun lang talaga sya mag alaga ng friends.. So its better na tanungin mo na but be ready whatever the answer is.. Tsaka yun nga at least alam mo, you can move on after it. Kesa you’re stuck on thinking and thinking and thinking (.. and more thinking =P) on what he feels

[Sophie ]
May better way ba para malaman mo ang reaction/emotion ng isang tao towards you?
[Doc Binx]
Second question.. Better way.. Kung matapang tapang ka, ask him/her directly… hehehehe .. Sabihin mo aba di ka manghuhula no..

3 ways siguro..

1. Gusto mo ba ko o hindi --> pang movie to, medyo may pananakot.

2. Depend on your Gut feeling --> mejo risky… pero minsan may mga taong transparent naman kung ano feelings towards you.. Anjan na nakalatag na.. Ikaw nalang ang "in denial".. Tabi po…
Siguro talent to.. Tipong magaling ka maghanap ng facts… Mejo mahirap imaster kasi you might end up "assuming"… Some signs siguro I can suggest: he gives you flowers, he texts you regularly, says I miss you, has concern for you… he may not be sure yet kung itutuloy niya to the next level pero this means "interested" siya.. If after some few months, nag aantay ka parin na itake niya to the next level, drop him like a hot potato! Wala siyang guts! Hahahahaha..

3. Call a friend --> consult someone close to him/her.. Ask mo gusto ba niya ko.. Hahahaha..
naniniwala akong malalaman mo kung anu feelings ng isang tao towards u … kung hindi mo talaga alam, ibig sabihin alanganin din ung taong un … so, wag ka na lng magaksaya ng panahon sa kakaisip at kakaramdam kung anu ba feelings nya … :D

I’d go for suggestion 1, kung alam mo namang ganung tipo din sya ng tao… yung kayang sumagot ng diretso… pero kung hindi, you’d better choose suggestion 2 above and wait for his/her manifestations… hehehe… you’ll know eventually ;)


Syempre the ultimate way ay sabihin directly.. Pero since pa dalaga Filipina image tayo.. e di sabihin mo na lang sa text.. hahahaha .. joke! =P

[Sophie ]
Pano kung sinabi nyang "i like you" pano ka react?

[Doc Binx]
Third question… Tumbling ka? Hahahhaha..
1. Shocked --> parang nanalo ng award
2. yung advise ng ating anonymous texter -->

if sum1 tels 'iluvu'
don't say 'iluvu2'
juz luk at him
& grab his shirt
& say
'ASTIG mo Ah..?'
Bakit.. masarap ka bang humalik?!!'

3. hayyy.. Sabi namin kagabi parang pag close kayo, at friend lang ang turing mo sa kanya.. I humor mo nalang yung sabi niya.. In a good way naman ha, hindi yung sarcastic..sample: pare, ano bayan? We're friends for life.. Sabay change topic.. Hehehehe..
Pero pag type mo rin siya, aba go go go! Blush ng konti.. Look into his/her eyes… "I like you too." basta make sure na yung pagkakasabi niya ng "I like you too" ay may romantic context.. Mamaya mapahiya ka pa e.. Mahirap na..


Act as if nothing happened… hehehe… joke =P Say "thank you" =P hehehe. Pero kung may talent ka to make the mood a little lighter para di kayo mailang sa isa’t isa kapag sinabihan ka nya ng "I like you", gamitin mo na yung talent mo sa pagkakataong iyon! Tsaka ka na magmuni muni kapag mag-isa ka na at wala ka na sa harap nya… hehehe…


madami kasi ibig sabihin I like you.. I like you as a what? As a friend o to the next level friend na? Pero usually when a person tells u na he likes you medyo getting to the I love u part na din naman.. medyo di pa lang siguro sure exactly what he feels.. If you like the other person then tell him! Wala ng pakipot! Go na! Baka mawala pa chance in a lifetime at lumaban laban! Wag bumawi-bawi! Awww! Hehehehe .:) Basta be true to what u feel, kung feel mo he’s sincere and ok naman sya for u (make sure lang na he’s sincere) e di sabihin mo na din what u feel.. Wala naman mawawala pag nagpakatotoo ka.. ;)

[Sophie ]
Pano mo malalaman kung manhid siya o hindi talaga interested?

[Doc Binx]
Manhid means walang pakiramdam.. Hehehehehe.. Taong bato..pag sinampal mo at di siya masaktan manhid yon..pag physically eh dikit ka na ng dikit sa kanya, at wala parin siyang reaction, manhid din yon…..
Walang interes? Siguro youre doing your "part" already.. Ginawa mo na lahat ng pagpapacute, pagpapalipad hangin, pagsabi sa friends niya na "alam mo I like your friend".. Pero wala parin.. Aba ineng, makatunog ka na.. Hes just not into you..

Hmmm… kung manhid man sya or di interested, that’s almost the same case… hehehe… so just accept na ganun lang talaga kayo. Pero kung mabagal lang talaga sya at di marunong magtake ng first step, pasakayin mo ng mrt/lrt! Matuto yung mag-box out!!! Hahaha… =P

nasabi ko na to kagabi.. =P pero seriously, feel mo naman e if a person’s not interested… Basta wag lang magka tanga na kahit ramdam mo na ayaw naman nya sayo naniniwala ka pa ding may chance.. Pero sabagay, sabi nga nila pag may tyaga may nilaga.. Pero yun nga if he’s not interested e why waste ur time di ba! Tsaka yun sa manhid, haller! Gusto mo ba magka bf ng manhid! Baka mamaya sarcastic ka na tapos inaaway mo na akala pa nya nagpapatawa ka lang.. Ganun.. gusto mo ba yun? Hahahaha.. =P

Now a song dedicated for you sophie.. Hit single by Manny Pacquiao.. Para Sa Iyo.. Enjoy!

Doc Binx sings.. "i don't want to wait in vain for your love..." o mas gusto mo TORETE? sige torete nalang.. "Torete.. Torete.. Torete.. "

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